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Stressed-Out Men Beating
Their Wives
By Ali al-Nawas
July 19, 2005 - (IWPR) Economic pressures appear
to be fueling a rise in violence against women.
Teacher Sunniyyah Abdu-Wahid said she is beaten
every week by her husband with or without reason.
Sometimes he punches her in the head and she passes
out. He even beats her in front of their five children.
I've made many sacrifices [for him], but he doesn¦t
appreciate them, she said, adding that her husband is also verbally
abusive. I respect him and I do not neglect him but he doesn't respect
me, even before my children.
Analysts say cases of domestic violence have been
on the rise, but accurate statistics are difficult to gain because
much of it goes unreported. Deteriorating living conditions, which
have put additional stress on families, are considered to be a major
factor.
Last month, IWPR reported on an increase in child
abuse across the country with minors being beaten by their fathers
and even suffocated to death by their mothers.
Health officials blamed the rise on the breakdown
of security in the country and expressed concern that cases were
being overlooked because of the government¦s focus on countering
the insurgency.
Interviewed about the growing instance of wife-battering,
psychologist Ahlam Ali said many women are putting up with beatings
for fear of the damage a divorce would have on relations between
their family and that of their spouse.
She is obliged to endure the situation because marriage
in our country is also a link between the two families, and divorce
leads to problems between them, he said
Like many battered housewives Samah Anwar, who has
seven children, blames economic hardships for her husband's rage.
The social and financial situation affects the relationship
between men and women, particularly the difficulties we have today,
she said.
Hind al-Saffar, a member of the Women's Rights Association,
said the organisation is trying to educate women about the law and
their rights.
The chaos in the country has played a role in men's
victimisation of women, she said. But beating women with or without
reason is unacceptable.
Omer al-Rawi, an engineering graduate with five
children, admitted that he had beaten his wife, attributing it to
the psychological pressures that a man cannot endure.
But I regretted it and I repented, he said. I am
against violence and women must be loved.
Noori al-Ubaidi, a prayer leader at a mosque in
the al-Jamia district, said domestic violence contravenes Islamic
teachings.
The man who beats his wife goes against the instructions
of the Prophet, who said men must respect women, said al-Ubaidi.
From: http://www.iwpr.net/index.pl?archive/irq/irq_133_4_eng.txt
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